How Do I Put My Child in Respite Care?

Respite care means trusted people support your adult child for a short time so you can rest, work, or breathe. Choosing this is love, not failure. You may feel overwhelmed, guilty, or worried. You are not alone; families need this break.

Main Steps To Put Your Child in Respite Care

The process of putting your child in respite care is as follows:

1. Clarify your needs: Write down when you most need a break and how often. Note what your adult child needs help with during those times.
   
2. Contact local authorities or a case manager: Call your local council, county office, or a case management agency and say you want respite care information and support.
   
3. Talk to a healthcare professional: Ask your family doctor or public health nurse to document your child’s needs, do an assessment, and give written referrals.
   
4. Ask about available respite options: Ask clearly about in‑home support, community programs, and short‑term residential stays for adults with disabilities.
   
5. Complete applications and assessments: Expect forms, phone interviews, and maybe waitlists. Staff can usually help you fill things out step by step.
   
6. Visit and decide: Tour options, including day support programs for adults with disabilities. Watch how your child reacts.

Types of Respite Care to Consider

Different types of respite let you choose what feels safest and most helpful for your family. Consider the 3 below:

In‑Home Respite Care

A trained carer comes to your home for a few hours or overnight. This often feels less disruptive for your child.

Community‑Based Respite

Your child spends time at community centers, clubs, or day programs for adults with developmental disabilities. Ask about activities, transport, and staff training.

Residential Respite

Your child stays in a staffed home for a few nights or a weekend. Ask about routines, medical support, and how they handle anxiety or change.

Related Daytime Support Options

Many families mix respite care with daytime support that builds skills and routine. These options also help you keep working or resting.

• Special needs day programs often offer structured activities, life skills, and social time.
• Day care for adults with disabilities focuses on safety, close supervision, and meaningful daily engagement.
• Day support programs for adults with disabilities gently build independence over time.

Next Steps

Next, reach out to a case manager and say you want to talk about respite options. Before you call, write down your questions, your child’s recent behaviors, and daily routines. You do not need to have everything figured out. Simply starting the conversation is enough. For more information on supported living, download our Supported Living Guide.