How to Apply for Respite Care

If you’re wondering how to apply for respite care, this page walks you through the basics in North Carolina. As a caregiver, you carry a lot, stress, exhaustion, and worry. Here, we’ll break the process into simple steps you can follow.

What Is Respite Care and Who Is It For?

Respite care is short‑term, planned or emergency care that gives you a break while your adult child with IDD or another disability is safely supported. It’s designed for family caregivers who need rest, time for appointments, or simply a moment to breathe.

Typical respite care responsibilities include:

• Supervision and safety
• Help with personal care and meals
• Community outings and activities
• Following your routines, behavior plans, and communication styles

How to Apply for Respite Care in North Carolina

1. Get a professional referral

Contact your local health department, Department of Social Services, MCO, or a disability organization like the Autism Society of North Carolina. Ask specifically about the NC Lifespan Respite Program, NC Innovations Waiver, or 1915(i) options that may fund respite.

2. Find and contact a respite care provider

Ask the referring agency for a list of approved respite providers, including in‑home support and adult day programs.

3. Apply and complete an assessment

You’ll share information about your adult child’s diagnosis, daily needs, behaviors, and safety concerns. A care coordinator may schedule a home visit or meeting to understand your family’s situation.

4. Schedule and plan your respite care

Work with the provider to choose dates, times, and settings. Share your child’s routines, medical needs, calming strategies, and any “must‑knows.” Plan ahead, respite slots can be limited, especially on evenings, weekends, and holidays.

The Paperwork

It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed by forms and rules, most families do. Required paperwork are:

• Proof of disability diagnosis and age
• Basic ID, insurance/Medicaid details, emergency contacts
• A summary of daily care and supervision needs

FAQs About Applying for Respite Care

How long does the process usually take?
It can take a few weeks to several months, depending on funding and openings.

Is respite care free or covered by funding/waivers?
In many cases, Medicaid waivers or state programs help cover costs; some families may pay privately.

Can I choose my respite care worker?
Often yes, you can request a specific worker or ask for someone who fits your adult child’s personality and needs.

Covenant Can Help

Covenant offers respite and other supportive services for caregivers and adults with IDD. Explore our services and download our Supported Living Guide here.